There may be a million things you and I need to get done, and little humans we need to keep alive (not to mention the sleep your body is craving). It's lovely to hear all your supportive advice and experiences, not to mention the kind words. I am feeling bad that I can't give him my full attention any longer because I'm nursing or busy with baby. Tips for dealing with newborn and a toddler - posted in Birth-6 Months: Hi I am feeling overwhelmed about the upcoming birth of my second. Jungle book was another great favourite when I needed a little longer to recuperate (or shower, go to the loo AND eat). But I wasn't diagnosed for 3 years and I don't want that to happen to anyone else. It will get better - eventually. I know it's a phase but it when you're sitting in it, it feels interminable. It was too much. Secondly today should of been my baby shower, celebrating with my friends and family. I’m rushing to get the dishes done, my shower in, clothes folded...and time reading my bible and in prayer just straight up does not happen. No I'm not broody! Take care of yourself Tandem nursing is a lot of work, not only physically, but also emotionally. Kids thrive on routine and I know that I do to (and I bet most of you out there are the same). And stop being so hard on yourself. However, despite its challenges it was actually wonderful. Overwhelmed by how much they all look to me to take the lead. I followed the baby whisperers advice. You sound like a lovely Mum & I'm sure it'll get gradually easier. I did it for one day and realised I should not have done so.The 5 week mark is the time when they really switch on to being held and have worked out how to achieve that (little rascals). Firstly I am hating every part of my pregnancy, which I feel guilty about because I can't wait to be a mum, its all I have ever wanted. You have done the hardest bit. But being mamas is what we are, and it is the task and purpose that we have been given. Well today I am feeling very emotional and overwhelmed with everything. So here are some ideas for when you’re tired, stressed and overwhelmed to help you reboot. We sent DS1 to nursery 3 half days and that was awful for him and us. But the mental cloudiness that I would have if I left my house is cluttered, might. My baby loved it. In parenting, there are very few lifeguards—and everyone assumes that you know how to swim. lots of cushions in front of the sofa or bench. And if you don’t feel like you have anyone to talk to, I’m here! Take advantage of that and use it as an excuse as needed . But go to docs and be honest about it all.You aren't alone, and come on here to offload anytime. There is nothing good that can come from comparing myself to other moms (yes, I have a lot I can learn from other mamas, but learning from is different than comparing to). Making the bed takes about 3 minutes, and this 3 minutes is totally worth the time if it keeps my mind clear and prevents unwanted irritants during the day. It's awful and you are like every other mum. Interviewer: If you're feeling a little bit overwhelmed with your newborn, it's totally natural because it's hard having a newborn. I finally got one of my baby twins to fall asleep when my three-year-old yelled, “Mama!” On cue, the baby woke up crying hysterically, and now both kids were crying for me. Feeling very tired from running after my 2 year old all day (also up a lot of nights as my son is not a great sleeper) and pregnant let alone what I'll be like when I have the newborn? Toddler & Newborn... feeling overwhelmed : Is anyone struggling to juggle a toddler and a newborn? Baby cries...pick it up, cuddle until quiet and contented and put it down. It gets better and seemingly in a blink of an eye they are both at school and you are longing for them to be a baby again. If you can try and do one thing, tone down the shouting. To use this feature subscribe to Mumsnet Premium - get first access to new features see fewer ads, and support Mumsnet. Your current challenges will eventually fade into memory, leaving you feeling like a rock star for having navigated them without completely losing your mind. I felt like I had that down, no problem. -  Designed by Just watch out for PND. Adding my tuppence to all of this as I had DS when DD was 20 months old and it was very, very hard. Who said that? They will be able to talk you through any concerns that you may have. It does get easier, and you will be so proud of yourself and them! But how much intense parenting they need, possibly including frequent nursing, in the second year depends for the most part on their inborn timetable for emotional development. I followed the baby whisperers advice. You sound like you are doing an awesome job xxAs mumofthreekids suggests, perhaps the nanny could free you up to play with ds - I think this would do you the world of good. He loves us, and wants to give us the grace, patience, peace, and motivation to mama our babies. After that there started to be longer and longer gaps, and now (DS is 15 wks) I hardly cry at all, except when we got caught in the 3 hr tailback on the M56 the other night.The constant feeding should calm down soon, which helps. I also don't want my toddler to hurt the baby by mistake (he is a boy and plays rough). DD can still sing all the songs back to back and she is 4.5 now! Being a FTM is hard, but going from one to two kids is no joke either, and I feel like it either isn't discussed or is downplayed. But I also know that I don't have to feel this way, or at least I can put some routines in place that will help to lessen the overwhelm. It was bliss when she finally napped though!Finally, if you can get 5/10 mins to yourself to just do the meditative breathing thing where you clear your mind and just count breaths over your upper lip; to 10 then start again, and gently push away other thoughts; it sounds odd but I found it a bit of a lifesaver. This checklist will walk you through the habits you can build to stop staying up late and start waking up early to get the time alone that you crave. In a way, I felt like I was dying a slow death. Also, not sure how old your DS is but those usborne books where they need to find the duck on every page were heaven sent to me. But I can assure you, the MOST important item on that list is maintaining your relationship with God, honoring him, and letting Him meet your needs. 3 Actions You Can Take Today To Get Better Sleep Tonight, 5 Best Teas To Help You Sleep Better At Night. For some reason, I am more hesitant to ask my husband for help than I might be asking my mom. 3. So here are some of the routines and habits I have put in place (or am working to put in place) to help me get control of my mind and emotions. If your child is easily overwhelmed by lights, sound, and activity, you can: Keep television and radio off or on low volumes. I know that being a stay at home mom can be draining and depleting. As parents we can slow down emotional growth by leaving needs unmet. You can also help one handed.I found scheduling the time really helped as my 20 mo DD had a stream of low key changing activities to occupy her and I didn't have to leave the house, just ticked them off the list. Thanks again for a great article! What length of time is it reasonable to leave a baby to cry, do you think? spanky yes, I'm very aware I could have pnd. free of clutter and junk pile-up makes a huge difference in my mental state. And, ultimately, that's what we all want: a happy, confident kid. And there is NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT. When I was at the end of my tether I found what ended up being the best thing I ever bought.....the fisher price rainforest bouncer chair. I was nursing my 3 week old, toys of every variety were strung about the living room, and diapers, wipes, and burps cloths were drowning me. With a newborn and toddler in tow, it’s impossible (or maybe possible, just stressful and unenjoyable) to keep to a strict, minute by minute routine. The most important thing though is that it will pass sooo quickly and before you know it they will be thick as thieves. But I had to keep reminding myself why I wanted to have another child. After DD1 was born I felt dreadful for turning DS's life upside down. My little one was a star baby, but it was my first stab at it and I had no support. Sounds like exactly what you're doing. Thank goodness it's the weekend and dh is here to share the load. And tired, emotional, anything generally dreadful really. I got this bit of advice from my sister (who also has a newborn, along with three boys five and under!). I found I literally could not comprehend that ds would get older and it wouldn't always be so hard. I’m trying to feed my newborn, who is cluster feeding and crying, whilst comfort Feeling quite overwhelmed by newborn and toddler combo: Hi ladies Really beginning to feel anxious about how I'm going to cope with a 2.5 year old and a newborn in late Aug. If you do feel very overwhelmed by trying to cope with a newborn and a toddler then it would be wise for you to seek help from a professional. How about asking the nanny to take your dd and you spend some time with your ds? Everytime i try to put her down she cries - I have been using a sling which has partially helped but every thing is so stressful when I try to play with, feed or do bedtime with toddler ds. Yup - been there. One day at a time. I bought a pack of 10 or 12 of the sticker ones which are A4 sized. It was becoming apparent that a lot of the overwhelm I felt was coming from not feeling like household chores were getting done, and our lives were running on chaos! It took me a whole evening to crack it so be patient and methodical about it.I totally understand how you feel. I know that sounds obvious but I really wasn't prepared for how hard it would be with two children under 2yrs, 2 in nappies, two needing a nap at different times etc. I was nursing my 3 week old, toys of every variety were strung about the living room, and diapers, wipes, and burps cloths were drowning me. It really does all feel like too much! Even 30 minutes can do wonders (and I don’t think your husband will be complaining about your suddenly brighter attitude, because I know mine won't ). I feel so alone, I am always by myself at home with my toddler who is really testing me at that moment. Ask your toddler what pictures he would like to have in the book or include some of your favorites together. Overwhelmed with toddler and newborn. I asked my DH to take DD1 out at weekends even for just half an hour into the garden so I could play with DS alone. Waking up early, before the kids, isn't an easy habit to build. Doc suggested topping up after feeds so I can get a bit of respite with ds. Introducing a new baby to your toddler is challenging enough, especially with the baby’s constant crying.Now you need to care for both of them… at the same time. I will definitely be implementing your tips straight away. Whether you're a first-time parent or a veteran, consider 10 practical tips to keep stress under control. Because there are times when just knowing that someone else has felt the same emotions and experienced similar discouragement makes me feel less isolated and more like a normal human again. What's the big difference between how I feel when I am wakened by my toddler vs. when I get up on my own terms? Take care xxx. It's early days. So if you are feeling overwhelmed with the stage that you are in with your children right now, take comfort in these three things: 1. I can get my shower in if I want to. So if I am feeling tired, I am going to try and take a nap when my kids are. It's simple but it works. Some great advice on here. This was supposed to be a joyful and harmonious time in our lives. I know people who have had four kids with NO help from family following the births of their children. If that mom of eight has eight, she has probably been a mom longer than I. Don’t compare yourself with a mom of ten years vs. me, going on 3 years. Pretty sure that day is not fun for him, either. Good Luck and hang on in there.x. Burp clothes and baby blankets are scattered about, toy cars are in the couch and under the chairs, and pillows are on the ground.... consequently, my brain can pretty quickly go from clam, cool, and collected, to a total jumbled mess of frantic thoughts. Why don’t they remember to turn off the lights, and pick-up their shoes, and run the dishwasher, and sweep up the spilled cat food without being asked? Our nanny has already offered to take out dd so I can spend time with ds but dd's feeding has been so constant (she had problems with her palate so my supply has been affected) that up until now I haven't been able to reliably leave her. I remember when my DD was 5 weeks old, colicky and in a sling non-stop feeling just as you do now - that it was interminable. Imagine its just pregnancy hormones. But then 4 o’clock rolls around and I’m not sure I’ll be able to make it another hour! My 5 week old daughter is pretty fussy, I can hardly put her down. When I wake up before the rest of my family, I feel like I have more control of my day. We may be tired, we may feel inadequate, and we may be overwhelmed. But then, of course, I have to actually take the time to put the randomness in the appropriate locations, instead of throwing them on the side table. Again, more great advice...thanks. - £200 voucher to be won, Win up to £500 worth of clothes: Share what you would buy from Zalando, How have you shown your appreciation for the NHS? Transcript. More from Expert. But there is nothing extra we can do to speed it up. I could dry my hair, go to the loo, wash dishes. Maybe it’s just me, but when I walk into my bedroom during the day and the sheets are strung about and the bedspread is crumpled up at the end of the bed, I feel instantly irritated. Dreading it because he's my baby From what friends have said, you kind of put the toddler first and bundle the baby into a sling for a couple of months. Ok, DS and DD1 weren't playing together yet, but hopefully they would in the future. £200 voucher to be won, Feeling overwhelmed...toddle r and newborn, Talk widget showing discussions of the day & trending threads, Subscribe to Mumsnet emails direct to your inbox. If you're feeling good, it's going to rub off on her as well. Report as Inappropriate. I found life with a newborn tough and life with a toddler is still tough, just in different ways, so the thought of trying to do them together is pretty daunting. I know the sling probably seemed a good idea, but it has got baby used to being held all the time. My DH worked away a lot too and we had no family close by.I will come back later but just to say, you're not a shit mum and it is a perfectly normal feeling. You can get your toddler playing independently and then you can get a few things done around the house. But it is a discipline you will never regret! You know how quickly this stage goes.I breast fed and topped up with formula which seemed to keep my little one contented. So get help if you need it, everyone needs help. PS don't be too hard on yourself! Toddler needs to come first so baby needs to be able to be put down. Couldn't the nanny have the baby for an hour between feeds so you can spend some time with DS? Life got a whole lot harder once I was trying to juggle life with a toddler and newborn. So much that we kept going: another sister came 2 years later, followed by my 4th girl 16 months after that. l. I like the sorting beans/pasta idea, although getting ds to sit down for more than two mins to do something like read will be a challenge. And I feel like a total loser. If you have been feeling low or know of someone who is finding her new role as parent more of a challenge than a joy, you need to know more about PND – postnatal depression or distress. climb up, jump down, climb up, jump down... between that and the little indoor trampoline she had a great circuit and definitely wore some energy off when bored! Her life and the way she mothers WILL look different because me and her are two different people. After breakfast, the baby should be ready for the first nap of the day. It might be cleaning out my sons pants drawer (which was yesterday's task), or organizing my own closet, or cleaning out a kitchen cabinet that has gotten out of hand. Copyright text 2020 by Mama's Mornings. I could have written your exact post about 3 months ago. Co-sleeping benefits. To have no time for ‘gender disappointment’, To wonder how people make it to adulthood without knowing, What are your best budget buys this Christmas? You want (and need) help but can barely wrap your head around what you want much less find the time to ask for it. The newborn days are behind us now, and there are a few things I learned along the way that can help you ease into life with a newborn and a toddler. l. lojo461. If you don't have one it may be and idea as they all seem to love it and boy it keeps you sane.Because baby is used to being held you may need to re teach baby so that it is soothed enough to be in the bouncer. I just had my baby yesterday morning and prior to this, my 2.5 year old was my whole world. Expert Bio. If you are feeling the same helplessness its worth discussing it with someone. So much better that we now have DD2! Routine, routine, routine. DS also got much more used to her and stopped resenting her as much. The truth is, when you bring a new baby home and have a toddler (or a few) at home, you are often a disaster for a good, long while. Everyone's a winner. I think it started to get much easier when DD1 reached 6mths and started eating rather than BFeeding. My days feel filled with screaming (dd),shouting(me) and constant cries of "mummy"(ds). I love helping moms wake up early, before the kids, because I truly believe that is key to loving your life as a stay at home mom. oh yes yes to what mumofthree says: ask the nanny to take the baby for a whizz round the block for an hour while you have some time with your DS. Don't be too hard on yourself. The first few weeks I felt like I needed to get out of the house, not because I wanted to, but because I felt obligated to take my oldest kiddo somewhere and keep his day packed. Do this over and over and you should notice that gradually she will soothe. (And I went through all the same things again, although this time I was prepared for it and it wasn't so bad as DS and DD1 were already used to sharing me. I never thought i would say this but hallelujah for Peppa and Thomas! There were dishes to wash, laundry to clean and fold, floors that needed sweeping, a toddler to play and engage with, and a newborn to snuggle and nurture. I would let my little one cry for very short periods. I think it is because a part of me wants my husband to think that I am superwoman. We are human. Feeling overwhelmed : It’s been one of those mornings when you just wake up and everything makes you cry.. I’m just feeling so overwhelmed. I am the director, the scheduler, the planner, the seer, the doer, the organizer, and the manager. Ds goes out twice a week with our old nanny for a bit of variety but I yearn to be able to spend some time alone with him. Thrive Themes Feeling overwhelmed with a newborn. Don't worry about ds, you have brought an extra source of love, fun and playmate into his family. I'm feeling so down and overwhelmed. To keep that in check, me and my little guy are working on being more diligent in picking up after activities, doing the dishes right after we use them, and keeping my diaper/nursing/spit up-preventing basket tidy. I found that one book saved my sanity in those early days with sensible, easy to digest advice.I spent the first 8 weeks crying on and off and walking into another room if I felt overwhelmed. I promise I will, too. Two Changes I Made To Get More Calm Back Into My Life, 6 Ways To Boost Your Confidence With Your Morning Routine, 8 Things Every Mom Can Be Grateful For Even When Times Are Tough. It's awful when they set each other off crying. Because baby is used to being held you may need to re teach baby so that it is soothed enough to be in the bouncer. The first few weeks I knew I needed whatever sleep I could get, but now it is more important for me to get those few minutes in the morning to myself before everyone else gets up. I would pick him up, soothe him and put him back down again. I was always close by. Dd is just 5 weeks old and feeds, wants to be held constantly. For real, please connect if you need some encouragement, or just a friend to listen. Three points to remember when I find myself comparing: 2. I know that the ten seconds I take to put things in the designated location is not going to set my day back. It gets in your head like nothing else. I wish we'd done it the other way around and sent DD1 so I could have had time with my precious boy. To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account. Having two young children is so much harder than just having one. I am usually a fairly calm, maybe even a laid back, parent but the feeling of overwhelm has been, at times, suffocating over the past month. But having a general idea of the structure my day will have helps my mind to relax. I also felt pressure to say yes whenever I was asked by someone to go somewhere with them. We want to help you get through this period, and start to more often feel that you’re flourishing as a mum! I thought I'd never cope but now have 4! Thank you all so much for all your excellent and sensible advice. I’m feeling completely overwhelmed, my anxiety is through the roof. It is still bloody hard sometimes (mainly because my DD will not nap unless in the car or buggy) but we have fallen into a little routine and DS is bouncing off the walls with happiness and pride at being a big brother.Do update us, I will be watching your thread, and be kind to yourself, you're doing a great job! I promise it will get better soon! 2. Armed with little or no previous experience, you're now responsible for the care, nourishment, safety, and stimulation of a new baby. In this post, you will learn 31 tricks and tips for coping with a toddler and newborn. Here are my top tips to make flying with a toddler AND a baby easier! In some ways I am cool with getting help, and in other ways I am not. There were dishes to wash, laundry to clean and fold, floors that needed sweeping, a toddler to play and engage with, and a newborn to snuggle and nurture. I'm not saying that's what it is, you're just knackered and hormonal . I felt awful though as I shouted at him for pushing a vase off the tv whilst I was feeding dd yesterday - instead of squealing in disgust like he usually does when I stop him doing something he shouldn't, he looked sad and said " I'm sorry mummy". This is so important, even when it doesn’t feel like it. More by Expert; Baby bag necessities. I am feeling so overwhelmed, we moved to a new place 3 weeks ago, I am still living in the midst of a million boxes, running my business from home, and my toddler has the flu I just recovered from. Keeping surfaces (tables, counters, dresser tops, etc.) A mum of two, full-on but super cute little boys, Shelley is completely addicted to gentle attachment parenting, loves baby-wearing, fills the role of jersey cow for her youngest child, inhales books about child brain development, is happily married to her partner of 13 years and gets amongst it with the 4 yr olds on kindy parent days. And know that there are other moms out there who have felt totally overwhelmed with their role as a mama, too. Its really really hard, but you can do it! Take a breath before you react to anything, I found hat helped.No support is a killer, make the most of that nanny when you can. Her circumstances, personality, life experiences, family life, etc. ... feeling overwhelmed and alone, but it's slowly getting better. You are not a shit mum, otherwise you would not care at all and would not post on here for help.I only have the one child and dread having a second and being in the place you are right now but here is some objective advice anyway.Ok. I'm in a bit of a hurry but couldn't leave your post unanswered as I could have written it 6yrs ago when DD1 was new and DS1 was 20mths. That is the issue here that is driving you crazy. But don’t panic – introducing the action plan to see you through Whether you love being up in the night with your baby or you’re desperately trying to soothe her back to sleep, things can definitely take a (sleep-deprived) turn when your toddler wants to join the 2am party. Up to about 6 weeks, I think I cried most days. are all different from mine. Just a little something that takes 10 minutes or so, to help make me feel like I have a bit of control over the organization of my home. You are not alone. Not because it'll turn them into axemurderers but because it will make you feel more in control. Resentful of DD1 for taking all my time away from DS. The bouncers (2 of them, one upstairs, one downstairs) probably saved us from insanity. | Powered by WordPress, Overcome Overwhelm with A Newborn and Toddler, I feel like I have more control of my day. BUT, with a little discipline, encouragement, and focus, we can all thrive as stay at home moms. Tbh, I think the first 6mths passed in a blur.But, it does get easier and more enjoyable. That some days you can’t catch your breath and there’s nothing to hold on to. Jealous of all the time people spent with DS because people kept taking him out to help me out. I had it with ds and I recognise the same feelings of helplessness as last time I'm usually very measured and have things under control so when things get like this, it's hard to be objective. But know this: You will not be the first mom to feel this way, and you will figure things out. Postpartum depression can appear up to a year after the baby is born, so don’t dismiss the possibility if you’re six months in and just start to feel the mental pains of it all. The ironic thing is, sometimes not getting help is exactly what makes me irritable, cranky, and rushed. Not a criticism though. )So give the baby to the nanny for a bit and have a really good cuddle and giggle with DS. I feel like I'm in mourning for just having ds on his own. I know that my brain is going to feel the way my house looks. It's normal for your toddler to feel a range of feelings about this new change in his family. We had 4 kids in 5 years, and the hardest part of every newborn (after the first) was always the toddler. Ha! This method worked for me. I was heartbroken for DS when DD1 came and ended up slightly rejecting her.Could you get the nanny to take the baby out instead so you could have time with DS? Learn about: Feeling overwhelmed with a newborn from Helena Heyman,... Related Videos. My son is almost 2, full of energy and home full time with me since daycare isn't an option for us right now. There is nothing worse than a hungry cranky toddler and a crying newborn. And if I am still feeling down, I dare myself to. Once the pictures are in the book, you can ask him what words he'd like on each page or add a simple text yourself. A newborn can bring a whirlwind of activity and excitement to your life — and plenty of stress and fatigue, too. One of my most popular blog posts is the one I wrote about flying on your own with a baby. Here we go: This one is probably the #1 habit I need to keep up, because I know how important my Mama’s Morning is for me. Plus, Barnhill adds, babies are brilliant at picking up on our emotions. So going forward, even though there is less sleep at nights, I know staying awake after the early morning feeding (the feeding that happens BEFORE my toddler is awake) is vital for clearing my mind before the day really begins. Guilty for feeling bad towards a little baby and people who just wanted to help. There is quiet and peace in the house and I am able to pray and spend time reading my Bible. Yet, caring for a toddler and newborn challenged me in ways I never expected.. It take discipline and effort. We're going to find out exactly what that means, and hopefully reassure you coming up next on The Scope. Do this over and over and you should notice that gradually she will soothe. Anyone else feel this way? Especially when your toddler’s waking up with your baby. So you think that when it came to flying with a toddler and a baby after my second daughter was born, I’d be like, yup, I’ve got this. I'm glad we've helped. I've heard this before, and I'm sure you have too, but if you are like me there are times when I think I really need to get the dishes done, or fold laundry instead. This is page 1 of 2 (This thread has 46 messages.). Really. It does get better but it is overwhelming initially. The poor kid has had such a raw deal - I had a terrible pregnancy with dd and was quite poorly for much of it and now I have a baby constantly clamped to me and/ or crying. 2. 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